Contentment.
Joy.
Bliss.
How do I achieve these states of being?
Like most people at the beginning of the year, I look back to see where I have been while also looking forward to decide where I want to go.
This January, I feel tapped out; as a friend, daughter, aunt. I just feel spent.
Decades of giving and not putting myself first has finally caught up with me.
And, I am empty.
My olive branch has no more leaves left on it.
I am a thoughtful, caring person and while I will continue to be, I need to figure out who is deserving of me. Relationships are about give and take not just take.
I must begin to put myself first and if people fall by the wayside, so be it.
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Oh- That is so hard to do. It has been one of my life long struggles. I am a giver and it is very hard for me to "take"...or to expect to take....Bless you- Maybe YOU will get it right- xo Diana
This is a road I've been down many times and many times I've found myself wondering how I got there. I've always struggle with finding the right balance of giving and receiving. After a while you begin to realize that you can't take care of the whole world and be everything to everybody. It is during this lightbulb moment that you begin to put the spotlight on yourself!
When you find out could you let me know? I am rarely ever happy these days.
Happy New Year! I think this is a wonderful goal. We're so ingrained to think that it's selfish to ask "who gives me as much as I give them"? But it's not. So many people are takers - and they don't CARE that they are takers.
Cut those people out. Even if they are family. Even if they are friends. You're worth more than giving to those who never give back!
It helps me to ask, "Is this person helpless....or are they just unwilling to help themselves?" That's an important factor in how much of myself I give.
Here's to a balanced 2013 for you!
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