December 31, 2010

To Start Fresh in 2011, I Must Forgive

I am a fan of Joel Osteen.

As a practicing Roman Catholic, I tape his sermons each week and when I get a chance, I watch the program and take notes in a journal.

Something struck me about his sermon on 11/21/10. It was titled, "Forgive So You Can Be Free."

Wow. I was immediately hooked.

I have been carrying around anger and hurt from many people for wayyyyy too long and the only person affected is ahem . . . me.

Joel said "forgive to take away their power to continue to hurt you" and "what they did is not worth you missing your destiny."

So for the new year, I cannot continue to carry around all of this crap. It is too much.

Staying stuck in the past prevents me from living in the present and prevents me from making an excellent future for myself.

I will try to not "let that person that hurt me keep me in prison."

So, I am off to write a letter forgiving all of these people. I won't mail it of course. But I will get rid of it somehow.

On the list will be family members, friends, exes, former colleagues.

I will forgive them.

Because, I have to.

I need to.

For my own care and concern and well being, I must forgive.

"Forgiveness does not change the past,
but it does enlarge the future."
- Paul Boese

14 comments:

Kim-A Creative Spirit said...

And don't forget to forgive yourself for carrying the anger. It is a new day, a new beginning and you deserve the peace that forgiveness will give.

Donnie said...

We are all human and fall short in the eyes of the Lord (not a verse-my version) even the people who hurt you. I know you will feel so much better when you get those letters written but be sure to tear them up or something after wards. Then have a Happy, Healthy and Blessed New Year.

Kathy @ Creative Home Expressions said...

They say it's the best thing for you if you are living with hurt and anger, to forgive and let it go. Don't let it interfere in your life in that way when there are way too many reasons to enjoy everything else going on around you day-to-day. I think the letters are a good idea and if you have a fireplace, you could burn them during one of your winter fires.

All shoveled out now, Carmie? : ) I heard we are supposed to get rain Sunday so hopefully it will all wash away! I haven't forgotten about getting together, let's shoot for the end of January, beginning of February {providing there are no snow storms, of course!}.

Marie Anne said...

Good for you! It's something I should do as well, but know I won't.

Nothing but a year full of blessings wished for you in 2011!

poindextr said...

I'll echo Marie Anne too. Do whatever you need to in order to remove the barriers of your personal happiness. Forgiveness is a good choice. A very happy new year to you!

michelle said...

What a wonderful way to start the new year! I admire you for doing that my friend. I hope you can be free to live your life and move past all those that hurt you. Forgiveness is peace.

Hugs to you and happy new year!! :)

Joanne Kennedy said...

I admit, I am quick to forgive. However, that does not mean to forget or to become a door mat.

Dwelling on the past does one no good. I've found out that when someone did something to hurt me, I would be angry and think about it over and over.

Then I found out that the person I was dwelling about had not even given it a 2nd thought.


So don't spend time dwelling on the past and those who have hurt you.

Move on, like you said, forgive them.

Sissi said...

Good for you! I'm not there yet, but I admire you for being ready to let it all go. I'm hoping someday soon! Have a great New Year!

giddingslane at gmail dot com

Kim-A Creative Spirit said...

Thanks for your comment at A CREATIVE SPIRIT. I will continue to experiment with the Wilton liners as I have a collection of them. :o)

Van said...

Forgiving is hard, but it is an important lesson.

As a single nester, I need to follow this blog for inspiration :)

Dawn said...

I'm a few days behind, but just wanted to thank you for this inspirational post. I read it and immediately opened a word doc and began my forgiveness journal. I only had 3 names on it, and one was my own, so I felt pretty blessed when I was done. Thank you!

Kate said...

I found you from Long Hollow. I love your site. I’m going to poke around a little bit, but don’t worry I’ll put everything back where I found it!!

Jill said...

Good for you! My gramma mocked the Christian message to forgive - she felt it was letting the other guy "get away" with what they did. Her inabiity to forgive was so vast that she could name any person in her life and rattle off a list of every sin, every offense, every misdeed. Multiply that by all the people she met in her 81 years - and it's no wonder only her immediate family showed up for her funeral.

She never realized that forgiveness isn't about excusing the other guy...it's about taking care of your own spirit! I can't think of a better New Year's Resolution then to leave least year in last year and focus on the new year ahead.

Barbara Shallue said...

It's a concept that's tough for some people to understand, that forgiving ultimately is for ourselves, but it's so true. Good luck! Hope you got those letters written!

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