June 22, 2010

Seashell Remembrance

Since it is now summer and was Father's Day, I thought it time to share this post.

My brother's parish held a Remembrance Prayer Service for parish families who had lost loved ones in the last three months. There were 53 names listed but not everyone's family attended the service.

We went as a family and I thought it was one of the most beautiful experiences I have had.

There were many tears all around but it was also comforting to be around people who were grieving just like us.

The theme of the service was "Bright Seashells" and since we live near the ocean, it was very fitting. The songs and prayers were lovely.

The priest's homily really touched me. He said to not look for God in anger and hatred and self-righteousness but to look for God in family, friends whom you trust and nature.

As each person's name was called, the family and friends went up to the altar and selected a seashell from a basket of seashells.

We also received this lovely poem -

Now, I believe in coinky dinkies. Sitting right behind us was the family of a local 12-year-old boy who passed away from cancer three days before my brother. I mentioned this boy in my eulogy because while out with my niece one day, my brother stopped to help this boy who had fallen off his bike and couldn't get up.

I know that my brother is in heaven helping this boy get back on his bike.


Kimberly said...

Sending you healing light and prayers! A friend of mine just lost her sister suddenly yesterday. I can't imagine the pain you two now share, but I pray you find comfort in the love of friends and family.

Ro Magnolia said...

So glad you are finding some comfort. I love the idea of that service ... what a lovely way to remember. Sometimes, after a few months, people expect you to just get on with your life and they no longer understand that you are still grieving. And I love that picture of your brother helping that boy with his bicycle in heaven.

Mary Ellen said...

I find so much comfort going to mass and sharing my grief and my happy memories with my family and friends. I'm not sure if I said this before, so forgive me if I'm repeating myself.... but look for strength and comfort in family and friends. Go ahead and lean on each other and talk about your collective loss. It really helps me! Keep hanging on, Carmie!
-ME xo
(I too believe in "coinky dinkies!")

Heidi said...

Oh, boy, you got me tearing up there at the end of your post. I know you are grieving for your dear brother and I am so glad that the service brought you some comfort. That is a lovely idea for a service, it truly helps to share feelings with others going through the same circumstances.
I hope every day gets easier for you.
I appreciate you linking up today!
Heidi - Heart and Home

karen@fitnessjourney said...

I'm so sorry to hear about your brother. Losing a sibling must be extremely difficult. My own older brother was diagnosed with terminal cancer last October and is at the end stages now. I hope that when his time comes I'll have the strength I see in you. I'm still hoping for a miracle.

I wanted to share with you something my 7 year old son said to me when I told him that my father died. His first words were, "I'll bet he's already an angel." That, above anything anyone said to me was the most comforting thing I heard. All the best to your family during this difficult time. I think your brother is already an angel too.

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Cindy ~ My Romantic Home said...

What a touching post! Thanks for sharing it on Show and Tell!

Diane said...

Yes, I'm sure your brother is in heaven taking care to help all he can. Very sweet and touching post. My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family.

Laura Ingalls Gunn said...

Oh my eyes misted up. Just lovely.

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Holly said...

This sounds like an amazing experience and a wonderful way to remember and pay tribute to your brother. That is a touching story about the little boy. Thinking of you.

Its So Very Cheri said...

I am so sorry for your loss and grief. It will always be with you but it won't always be so raw.


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