May 24, 2010

More Grief, More Gardening

I have received such wonderful and thoughtful and kind responses to my post - Garden Grief Relief . All of your prayers and "hugs" have touched my heart. Some of you have even shared your own stories of personal grief. I am truly grateful.

I had my Dad pinky swear that he would not work in the garden unless I was there. Well, he is a stubborn Italian and he planted some more veggies.

Some butternut squash -

And, halfway through the tomatoes, I caught him and helped him finish the rest - 24 plants.

Had my brother passed in the winter, I don't know how Dad would cope. Come the fall, that is another story.

"Man, when he does not grieve, hardly exists." - Antonio Porchia

16 comments:

Mary Ellen said...

The garden is my sanctuary- I pray, cry, get my anger out..etc. in the garden. I am glad your father has his garden during this time-

Sandy said...

Gardening was my Moms way of releasing her grief.. I would see her out back on her knees pulling weeds by the hour... She even found a large stone and put my brothers name on it, placed it in her garden!
Sending 'good vibes' for your dad!

concretenprimroses said...

I'm so glad he has the garden.

Kathy

Mary Ellen said...

Carmie, you hang on girl! Your Daddy needs you as much as you need him! From the outside looking in, I think you are doing an amazing job dealing with all of this... keep writing, we are here for you!
-ME xo

Mary Ellen said...

Hey, I just noticed, another Mary Ellen... how about that!
-ME

Sweet Bee Cottage said...

Your garden looks like it is off to a great start. I'm glad you and your father have your garden to help you through your difficult times.

Kaysi said...

Your garden is looking great!!

Ott, A. said...

Found your post on Tip Junkie. Your garden looks great! Ours is coming right along too. Stop by for a Latte' sometime and check in out.

Brenda@Cozy Little House said...

The garden is where I express my grief through dedicated memorial gardens for my lost loved ones. It's therapy for me. The blooms and veggies are icing on the cake.
Brenda

sewingseeds4U said...

There is no better place to feel at peace than in a garden. Somehow digging in the dirt, starting new life, is comforting. Even if it just allows a little time for escape...I can see why your dad keeps gravitating out there.

Brianne said...

The garden looks great!! I have a garden link up every Tuesday you should link your garden posts to share!!

I am your newest follower!

www.justtryingtosavemoney.com

Heidi said...

Your dad is connecting with the earth and life in general, in a way he's probably feeling connected to your brother too, when he's out in the garden digging and planting. Everyone grieves in their own way, I'm glad you have each other to see you through these days, to share your sadness and the growth that comes through the grief.
Thinking of you and sending a hug for both of you.
Thanks for linking up today!
XO
Heidi - Heart and Home

Denise said...

Just a thought - your dad may NEED to be in the garden, especially when you aren't there. It may be the thing that helps him cope when he's alone. Another thought - add some flowers to the garden - there are lots of great companion flowers that help keep bugs away and even make the veggies taste better. Zinnias, sunflowers, marigold, nasturtium are a few. But more importantly, I have read that flowers do something to make you feel good. I think there are studies about it. You and your dad are dealing with so much right now. Flowers certainly won't heal all that, but even if they bring you a tiny bit of happiness once a day, that's something. God paints with flowers.

Jill from Women Who Do It All said...

I really enjoy reading your updates! I look forward to reading future posts as your family heals and finds peace. Seems like you are doing a good job suppporting each other :)

Prior said...

Reminds me of the old hymn, "I come to the garden"... Yummy vegetables!
Lezlee

Lanie Ree said...

Thank you for participating in the Creative Therapy session. My heart is with you and your dad.

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